Matthew 19:6 says:
6 So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.” (with the exception in verse 9).
I think one reason divorce is so prevalent is because people go into marriage with the mindset “If this doesn’t work..If I’m unhappy..If it’s too hard…I can divorce and try again.” Our society teaches us that our happiness is the most important thing in life. Couples marry when they’re in love and everything is new and exciting; they aren’t told that there 100% WILL be times when the going gets rough, and you might not FEEL like you’re in love any more. Couples aren’t taught that love is a choice…after all, media tells us that love is a feeling, and feelings can change.
My husband and I both came from “broken” families. My parents divorced when I was very young, and Louis’ parents were never married. In fact, his father was never a part of his life. We both came into this marriage promising each other that divorce will NEVER be an option.
In the first couple of years of our marriage we already went through some very difficult times that I know had the potential to break our marriage if we had let them. God is good and faithful, however, and He’s seen us through the storms. Things aren’t perfect, but God is helping us to grow all the time (as long as we let Him!)
Louis and I got marriage in the winter, January 13, at a small police hall. It wasn’t a huge wedding; we only invited close friends and family. We kept costs to a minimum. Our wedding cakes were sheet cakes from Costco, my shoes were 5$ from Value Village, etc. Everyone had a great time though. Was fun to laugh later when we talked about how the pastor, who had been a friend of my husband’s for several years, only pronounced Louis’ name properly ONCE during the ceremony..in the middle of the service. I tease Louis about how he stepped on the train of my dress after we had cut ourselves pieces of cake, almost sending me face first on the floor into it!
We spent our honeymoon at Niagara Falls. After seeing the room we’d reserved for the week, we were not impressed, so we walked around the area until we found another hotel that was so much cheaper that we could afford to stay 2 more nights and still pay less!
Father God, thank you so much for my husband. Thank you for the unity of marriage you have created between us. Help us to always remember our vows and to hold tight to them. Help us through our seasons of hardships. Help us to serve each other before ourselves. Please guide us through Your Holy Word as we journey through life together always. Amen.