This morning I read the tragic news that 3 sisters in Alberta died after a farm accident. I can’t imagine what their family is going through, and honestly, I don’t want to even try.
And sadly, as soon as the story is out, so are the judgments. People commenting that the parents are more or less at fault for allowing their children to play in an unsafe manner.
Because apparently, the best thing for a parent to hear when they’ve suddenly lost their children is “it’s your fault.”
Those girls had probably done the exact same thing countless times before. Just like someone in a car accident has usually been in a car countless times before. There was no reason to think the girls were not safe. We never know when something will happen but we can’t live our life being afraid of what might.
And I wonder…all of the people making those comments…could they say those words as easily to the parent’s face? Or is it just easier to “know better” from the other side of a computer screen. When they don’t have to see the tears and anguish their words cause.
The Bible tells us to use our words to build each other up (Eph. 4:29, 1 Thess. 5:11) and to grieve with those who grieve (Romans 12:15.)
However, I frequently see the opposite happening when people are in need. People judging instead of loving.
A few years ago there was a car accident at the edge of the parking lot of the grocery store across the street from where we lived at the time. A child was unrestrained in the can and had to be airlifted to hospital. And before I heard “I hope he’s OK”, I heard “why wasn’t he in a car seat?”
Maybe he was. Maybe the mother was pulling over into the store because she realized the child had unbuckled himself. Maybe the child unbuckled himself as he saw they were going to be getting out soon. No one knew, but people were so quick to judge.
An accident like that which caused the loss of those 3 beautiful girls could happen to any of us. We don’t know what’s in our future.
Hug your children tight, teach them to be aware of hazards, then let them run out to play and climb trees and explore.
And before we judge, we should think of how we’d want people to treat us if we were the ones suffering. Would we want a hug or a sympathetic ear, or fingers pointing at us?
**If you feel so led, there’s a GoFundMe page set up to support the grieving family.
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