I’m really hoping that our journey will be short with a good ending. But since this blog is about my family, I want to share what’s going on with us lately. More specifically, what’s going on with Josiah, my 2 year old son.
He’s always been a difficult child. He cried a lot as a baby. Not colicky and screaming for hours on end, just very hard to keep happy. He was a very whiny child to the point that people would tell me that I must not be spending enough time with him; normal babies don’t whine all day long.
He reached his big milestones incredibly early; he was pulling himself standing just days after learning to crawl – at 5 months old- and he was full out walking before he hit 8 months old.
By the time he was 10 months old, he was climbing. I mean, really climbing. He climbed 4 feet off the ground up a bookshelf one day. Another day, my husband walked into the kitchen to find him on the table, climbing up to the shoulder-height window sill, holding a steak knife.
In other areas, however, he’s behind. I wasn’t really too worried before. My eldest son, Tobi, was similar in development. He was slow to speak, though he did have about a dozen words by the age of 2 whereas Josiah had 2 or 3. Tobi is also very intense and emotional, quick to have tantrums. So for a while I was thinking that Josiah is just similar to Tobi. A little behind in some areas, ahead in others, maybe a bit immature for his age. Gut really, how mature is a 2 year old going to be?
However, over time, we have noticed other behaviors that seem off.
He often ignores us so entirely, even when shouting his name to get his attention, that we got his hearing tested when he was 23 months old. It turns out he can hear just fine.
He wanders. We still have to keep the yard fenced off because he will leave. Our other children were past this stage much younger.
He doesn’t play well with others. He is usually very aggressive. No fear, no holding back. I have to brace myself when he runs to me so that he won’t knock me off balance or hurt me.
Josiah is now about 28 months old and he uses only a few words. No, hi, bye, and up. We think he might be starting to say “yes” but we’re not sure yet. He used to say mama but it’s been over 1.5 years since he’s said it.
There are more, but I’ll stop there for now. I know that all of these things could be characteristics of a normal toddler. It just seems like all of the difficult parts of a 2 year old are very exaggerated in Josiah.
I’d brought my concerns to the Dr. before but I always down played them. I know, it’s not very helpful of me. But I was worried about coming across as a paranoid mom who maybe just can’t handle her toddler.
The Dr. was very good, though. She listened to my concerns. I had brought a list of behaviors that stuck out at me and she kept a copy for herself.
She is referring us to a pediatrician in the next town over from us, who will examine Josiah and she will decide if he should be assessed by the autism clinic at the children’s hospital. My Dr. could have referred us directly to be assessed for autism but the wait for that will be very long so I figured we might as well see the pediatrician first. Who knows, maybe she’ll decide that he doesn’t need to be assessed for autism and will recommend something else. Maybe she’ll just say that Josiah is a bit slower but that he’s fine and will catch up in time.
I’m torn. On the one hand, I’m glad that she listened to what i had to say and agrees that we should get him looked at more closely. On the other hand, it would have been nice if she had said it’s fine, there’s nothing wrong. If Josiah is on the spectrum, I know it would be very mild. I just don’t want it at all.
Do you have any children on the spectrum? What was the process like when your child was being assessed and diagnosed?