Welcome to the Keep Calm and Carry On: The No Yelling Challenge. Cheryl and Michelle, from On The Old Path and Simplify, Live, Love, and myself, will be doing this challenge and committing to not raising our voices in anger. Each Friday for the next 4 weeks we’ll be linking up together and talking about our struggles, our triggers, and our ways of defusing our frustrations so that we can keep calm and carry on through our day with our children. If you want to take part, please do! I’d love to hear how the challenge goes for you as we update each week. Each week we’ll give you an update and share our triggers, alternatives to yelling, our ups and our downs of the challenge. So make sure you check in each Friday!
A soft answer turns away wrath,
But a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1 NKJV
I know this verse. I’ve talked about it before. I’ve talked to my children about it. I still struggle with yelling, though.
I need to get on top of this. I don’t want to be a mean mommy. I’m starting to see my son talk to others in the same way that I sometimes talk to them when I’m upset and it’s not OK. I need to be their example. “Do as I say, not as I do” just doesn’t cut it.
So now I’m asking you to keep me accountable.
I’m not going to hide. I’m going to share my failures along with my successes. Hopefully, there will be more of the latter.
I know that I can’t do this by myself. So I’ve been looking into the Bible and reading what is said about yelling, anger, and other related topics.
Now we exhort you, brethren, warn those who are unruly, comfort the fainthearted, uphold the weak, be patient with all. See that no one renders evil for evil to anyone, but always pursue what is good both for yourselves and for all.
Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, in everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.
Do not quench the Spirit. Do not despise prophecies. Test all things; hold fast what is good. Abstain from every form of evil.
I Thessalonians 5:14-22 NKJV
So much wisdom in these few short verses!
Be Patient. Do not render evil for evil. That means no yelling in anger (my evil ) when my kids misbehave (their evil.) Rejoice and pray always. Praying through the difficult moments will be a must!
Give thanks in everything. In every situation, be thankful for something. Focus on the good. Hold fast to what is good, abstain from evil.
Not a short order but necessary.
When I yell at my kids, I hear myself and I hate it. And I know it’s a lack of self-control on my part. I am able to control myself in public settings, after all. It’s funny how my patience multiplies with the number of people around me. So why do I give my best when others are around but I don’t when it’s just my children and I at home? My children deserve my best! My husband does too, because well, there is truth to that saying. When Mama ain’t happy, ain’t no one happy. I set the tone for our household. My husband comes home from work tired and stressed. If I’m grumpy when he gets home, he gets grumpy, and likely the kids are already grumpy because they’ve been home with a grumpy mama all day.
When I look back to my childhood, I honestly can’t remember being yelled at. At all. Sure, my dad got upset with us at times. But he never yelled at us. I can’t remember my mom ever yelling at us, either. I want my kids to have that same reflection when they’re older. I don’t want them to look back and think, Wow. Mom sure yelled a lot.
So, are you with me?
Even if you aren’t taking part of the challenge, I would appreciate your prayers over the next 4 weeks! If you are taking part, leave me a comment and I’ll pray for you! Thanks so much.
If you are just now beginning this challenge, here are the other discussions we had throughout the month. I encourage you to find at least one other mom to do the challenge with or who is willing to be an accountability partner for you. I hope this can be a blessing to you and your family!
Week 2 – Triggers
Week 3 – How to be heard without yelling