I think I’ve said before, that I have a hard time keeping my cool when the kids start acting up. One at a time I can deal with. Get all 3 of them screaming at the same time, and I can’t handle the noise or focus. And I end up yelling at them. Then I feel guilty, ask forgiveness, and all is calm again..until the next time. For a while I was doing a really good job at keeping my voice down, but lately I’ve noticed it getting up there again. Often.
The other day I was totally humbled and abashed when I started raising my voice and in the middle of a pause my 4 year old told me, “Mommy, you’re trying really hard to not yell.” Oops.
So today when I was browsing around, I found this great challenge. A Gentleness Challenge. It started several weeks ago, but I think I’m going to start at Week 1 this week.
I’m not even sure when I started yelling at the kids, and why. Tobi must have been young, because I’m sure it was before Annabel was born. So he was probably just over a year, maybe close to 1.5.
The strange thing is, I don’t remember being yelled at as a child. So why did I start this awful habit with my own kids?
I’m trying to teach my kids self-control. How can I do that effectively if I can’t even control my temper? I want to teach them by practicing what I preach, not “Do as I say, not as I do.”
Do you struggle in this area? If so, I invite you to join me in this challenge. I’ll update about it each Monday. Let me know if you’re up for it!