Too many times I hear women referring to their husbands as “another child”, or complaining about how little they do around the house, or that when they do do a chore, they don’t do it “right.”
Wives, we are told to love our husbands! (See Titus 2:4) Love doesn’t publicly humiliate! It forgives!
If you think of your husband as a child, ask yourself: Why did I marry a boy when I wanted a man? Because he IS a man! Treat him like one! Yes, I understand that sometimes men can act immature. But hey! We can too! After all, how many times do we laugh at our kids’ farts? Real ladylike? No. But we do it..we can be immature too!
And yes, maybe your husband doesn’t clean the same way you do..but that’s OK because he’s trying to show his love for you by helping.
A man needs to feel needed. Telling the whole world that “my husband couldn’t do the simplest thing for me” is not going to do anything but cause hurt and perhaps resentment. If you have a problem with something he’s done, go to him! Talk about it honestly in a non-attacking way. Yes, I mean the whole “I feel…..because….” thing. Conflict resolution with your spouse does not happen over Facebook. And no matter what the outcome of your (loving!) confrontations are, they are of no business to your Facebook friends!
Complaining about your husband in public will make him feel 2 inches tall. Praising him in public will make him feel like a million dollars!
Sometimes is almost seems like women are competing to prove to others that they have the “hardest lives.” We want to be seen as the woman who can do it all, and if we can do it all despite having to face the most obstacles, all the better.
Don’t forget, you married your husband! You were a part of that decision. Yes, people change. But are you the exact same person you were when you married? I highly doubt it. Love is a CHOICE! If love were only an emotion, no marriage would last. But you need to choose to love, and SHOW love to your spouse, even when you don’t FEEL it.
And…I’m done. I’ll step off my soapbox now. Please, I’d love to hear comments on this!